Let’s talk about what some of our dreams and goals are. For instance, mine are to be a successful career woman and to travel the world with my husband. It’s something I’ve always talked about and am very passionate about.
But in today’s society if you’re a working mom you are frowned upon because you’re not with your babies 24/7. I’m not saying stay at home moms don’t work because trust me I’ve had my fair share and this is a 24/7 job. It is mentally draining as well as physically exhausting, you never clock out. So hands down to you ladies!
So here’s the thing, when I had Madison I stayed home for the first 7 months of her life. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to return to work. I would beat myself up thinking, “How can I leave my most precious thing behind for a few days!? How do other moms do it? Will Madison recent me? Will she forget about me?” Yes I asked myself all these questions daily. It also didn’t help when people asked, “Why are you going back to work?, You’re going to miss out on her milestones?”, and so on. The guilt was there. I mean I don’t have your typical 9 to 5 job, where I’m home after work making dinner and tucking my baby in for bedtime. I am literally gone anywhere from 2-6 days at a time. Of course I felt bad but I have always loved my independence and I love making my own money. Plus two incomes are better than one right!? I’ve been working since I was 16. Maybe this drive just comes from there. Also there’s nothing like being able to just splurge on Starbucks every day and being able to buy $10 chapstick without giving AF. It’s the simple things right? And let me tell you returning to work was the best decision I’ve ever made. (I have no regrets!) Not only for my own mental health but also for my husbands I’m sure. Plus Madison never forgot me nor have I missed out on her milestones!
There were plenty of times when I was ready to quit, trust me but I didn’t. One day a wise woman told me, “Just because you had a baby, life doesn’t stop. Don’t forget who you are and don’t stop doing what you love. Your baby will always be here. Go make her proud.” And that always stuck with me. So since then I always knew that I would continue flying. I want my girls to see that the impossible is possible. That if they want to reach for the stars they can. Just because you’ve changed as a human, by giving birth to another human, life shouldn’t stop there. And I am very fortunate to have a very supportive family. They give me the strength and drive to always better myself.
Don’t ever loose who you are for anyone. If you feel like maybe you’ve lost just a bit of yourself, it might be time to regroup. Maybe you can start by getting a journal and penciling things in, or start a bucket list, or even make a vision board of future dreams and goals. And work for it, make it happen! You can literally do anything you put your mind into. Remember that there’s more than just the woman you’ve become. You are important and should take care of yourself too. That these little humans we’ve created one day will grow up and follow their own dreams and goals. You don’t want to be left behind.
What are some of your dreams and goals? What drives you to better yourself? What will you do to get there?